i just spent 30 minutes on the phone with my mom...

talking about the TATTOO she's going to get when she's down here next week. this is the woman who practically disowned me after i got 3 TINY butterfly outlines when i was 21 that one normally cannot see! now i'm supposed to find her a shop i approve of and gather some artwork for her to show the artist.

i'm proud of her though. this summer she decided to divorce my step-dad (meh.) and now she wants a tattoo for, what i feel is, the right reason (for herself!). i also think its time for me to get a heart with mom in it. (how very sailor jerry of me.) it just feels right going in there together and doing that kind of thing. (um. hello white trash!!!)



anywho back to cleaning. i'll post photos of the downstairs later tonight. our bedroom hasnt been really cleaned since, um, we moved in... oops. but its clean now. i mean really clean.

{oh, and dont tell anyone about mom's tattoo. she wants to, um, keep it a secret.... shhh.... kekeke.}

too tired to really post, but...

our nephew has offically been transitioned from our house into his maternal grandparent's house, which is a GREAT thing! almost two weeks of insanity and life returns to almost normality. my mom is visiting next week (arriving tues. morning) for a little more than a week. ive had 6 beers this evening. i think thats all im going to post.

KISSES!

are you flippin kidding me?!?!?

so, everything is going well with our nephew at our home. the newest info we have is that the detective couldnt label the injury as accidental so it advanced to the next level. dun, dun. DUUUN! so, that means his medical records and the detective's investigation was sent to a forensic dude to be examined. the forensic guy will examin the evidence and do 1 of 3 things:
1. label the case non-accidental
2. label the case accidental
3. determine the case unsovable
option 2 & 3 get our nephew back into his mother's loving arms. option 1 gets a further investigation of the "suspects" and clears those who are determined innocent.

by the sounds of it, this could take a day, or two, or ten... so our timeline of retaining custody is still a wee bit hazy. poop.

i'm loving having our nephew here, but i miss my son. the boogerbear is here, but i didnt realize just how much i really love spending time with him and just him. if nothing else, this has made me more than understand that i'm NOT ready for another baby. i need more boogerbear!

so the flipping kidding me part:
the mother involved is a bit on the firey side. infact, she has one red hot temper/personality! i dont know how to explain it, but that she has a thing against my BILs children. the story goes like this. since we've had custody of our nephew, we've been in control of "visitations." Visitations have basically consisted of us hanging out playing with the babies for LONG stretches of time. which is not what is mandated by the court, but has been ok'd through the kind folks at our local CPS office. its cool. its not our routine, but i'm more than happy to have both "sides" of the family in my home as long as it helps to ease the crap that is CPS. well, now the mother wants to tell me i cant have my other nephews (her boyfriend's, my BILs other children from a previous marriage) in my home because it "over stimulates" her son! WHAT?!?! did she just tell me i couldnt invite my family into my home? people who aren't even involved in the investigation?!?!?! wow. just wowowowowow! first of all, as a mother, i know the kind of people/children i want my child to be around. i have no problem with these kids. they're good kids! second, thats a load of horse manure if she thinks that when her son hangs out with his half siblings that he's over stimulated. he loves it. in fact, both of the boys do. its nuts i tell you. how on earth can someone be so unappreciative and disrespectful?! ugh. this woman. i shake my head at her and pray for the best. there are so many thoughts racing through my head about this one, but i cant even type it out.

anywho, enough. i talked to the BIL about it. the SIL about it (thanks KT!). i talked to the hubby about it. the drama is over... for now.

the boogerbear wants to play the steal the remote game so i had better get into my best defensive stance. here's to a good tomorrow!!!

just a quickie

ok, our nephew sustained a mysterious skull fracture while we were in san diego. we came home and the whole family is suspect of negligent treatment and abuse! there is a huge on going investigation and there are only two family options who are eligible to take temporary custody of him. the other option has to return to work, so ben and i are the only option now.

So far our experience with CPS has been productive. i'm actually suprised just how thankful even CPS is for family members who care/love their own and at how much emphasis they put on taking care of the CHILD. i've heard so many CPS horror stories that i thought our nephew would just disappear on his way here, but he didnt and everyone has been very accomodating in helping us help the child.

our nephew is here with us now. he did really well with us this evening. fairly happy. both his mommy and daddy came to see him tonight. this is REALLY putting a LOT of strain on an already strained relationship, but, epecially after seeing them with the boy tonight, i have a really hard time believing that this incident was more than a freak accident. who knows though, right?

there is a facilitating family meeting on thursday. here we will sit down with the parents, other family members, and CPS workers and talk about a game plan for short term and long term living situation/custody of our nephew. i dont really know what to expect from this. the mother's goal is to have her parents granted temporary custody of her son. there are some issues about the maternal grandparents being cleared of suspect in the investigation. that should be clarified at this meeting. the father isnt so sure that the maternal grandparents will be granted temporary custody... for reasons unknown to me. the parents cannot regain custody of their son until the next court hearing in AUGUST!!! (could you imagine?!?!? i would simply cease to exist!)

we're open to whatever is best for our nephew. in our home or else where. its hard enough to survive in this world, he doesnt need all the odds against him. i am so happy that we can provide him a stable home if even for only a few days.

this is a big thing, but its not. does that make sense? in reality, there was no other choice but for us to take him. the other option was for him to go into real foster care (to be honest, i really feel like i'm just babysitting. CPS, court ordered babysittin) and that doesnt sit well with me. bottomline, we love him like the boogerbear and i fully plan on being the best foster mommy i can be until his little world is right again!

ha. short. i need a shower!

twins anyone?

so, i dont know what i can share, but, bottom line, i may be having another baby. tonight....

long story short the hubby and i may become temporary guardians for our youngest nephew who is about 8months old. just how temporary? i dont know. the social worker is doing a background check and talking about a home inspection later this afternoon. and possibly having our nephew in house tonight!

its been quite a day. more if and/or when i know. <3!!!

10 - 3 +1 = 8

for some reason, i have a thing for 5th grade math. it makes me feel smarter than the 4th graders.